Welcome to the Steve Green Counselling blog, and thanks for taking the time to stop by. My aim here is to talk about different issues you might be experiencing and ways that counselling may be able to help with them. I’m going to start with a quick overview of what counselling is and how it can benefit you.
So, what is counselling? Counselling is all about helping people who are facing difficulties in their life that are affecting their wellbeing. There are any number of situations that can have a negative effect on us: the death of a loved one, illness, losing a job, problems with family members etc. Any of these things can leave us feeling depressed or anxious, and it’s natural that they would do so. On the surface it looks simple enough.
But not everyone reacts the same way to these things. With bereavement for example, one person may be absolutely devasted and be unable to carry on with the everyday things in their life such as work, family commitments etc. On the other hand, if the relationship with the deceased was difficult, a person could be feeling all kinds of emotions that are all tangled together.
Counselling is there to help you explore your feelings and find ways to accept, understand and integrate emotions that you find difficult to cope with. By doing so your quality of life can improve and, through a kind of ripple effect, so can the lives of your nearest and dearest.
When it comes to our mental health there can be a tendency to underplay how much things affecting us. If we’re supporting people we love through challenging times in their lives, we can come under a lot of pressure ourselves. It isn’t easy. But precisely because of the size of their problems we can easily minimize our own. After all, my problems are nowhere near as bad as theirs. I have to be strong for them. I’m fine. This kind of thinking often works in the short term, but over longer periods can take a heavy toll on our own health.
The thing is, if we’re not taking care of ourselves how can we have the ability to take care of other people? You can’t pour more water into a glass that’s already full, it just ends up spilling out everywhere. You need to make space first, then you can add more. That’s where counselling can be valuable for you and those you care about. Talking to someone without a personal connection to the situation is a very good way of letting things out and making way for new, better things to come in.
I guess the golden guideline is this: if how you are feeling has you looking at counselling services, odds are that seeing someone would benefit you.
Sometimes one or two sessions are enough – it helps you get things straight in your head and you can meet your challenges with fresh energy and a slightly different approach. Sometimes it takes longer depending on what you’re dealing with. But you don’t have to deal with it alone, and I can help you through the tough stuff.